Today, August 19th, is the 5th Annual “Day of Hope.” This day to honor and celebrate babies and children lost was begun by CarlyMarie and Project Heal in 2008. Visit CarlyMarie’s facebook page for a wide variety of banners, cover and profile images for infant, baby, pregnancy, and child loss.
Carly Marie began Project Heal after losing her son Christian. She makes the most beautiful butterflies on the beach in Australia, Christian’s Beach, for other mothers who have lost. It is amazing how healing these butterflies are!
Aren’t they beautiful? I feel hopeful just looking at them!
Carly Marie says we will never stop grieving because we will never stop loving. That love and grief are forever linked, forever intertwined. It is so true. Yet it often feels like our society does not allow us the time to grieve or want mothers to talk about their losses. The timeline for “getting over it” seems exceptionally short.
I only had my Kathryn for 30 weeks 5 days in the womb, and 2 days in the NICU. In those 52 hours, she changed my life, changed my world. I will always, always miss her and love her. My sweet angel baby. My sweet half of a whole, leaving behind her twinless twin.
On this Day of Hope I am here to be a megaphone for loss moms. Whether they were four weeks pregnant or their child was 32 when they died, their child is forever gone. Their hearts are forever broken. They will always grieve because they will always love.
That is the bond of motherhood.
We do not grieve because we want pity or need attention. We grieve because a monumental piece of our heart and soul has left us, for the time being at least. And that is not a pain that will ever go away.
“There is, I am convinced, no picture that conveys in all its dreadfulness, a vision of sorrow, despairing, remediless, supreme. If I could paint such a picture, the canvas would show only a woman looking down at her empty arms.”-Charlotte Bronte
If you have lost a pregnancy, an infant, or a child, today is our Day of Hope. A day that we can talk about our loss and break the silence!
Do you have a story to share?
If you’ve written about a loss, please share the link!
I dedicate this post to all loss moms, but especially to my Pastor Ruth, who recognizes the fourth anniversary of her adult son’s death this week. He was not a baby, but he was her baby.