What To Say When a Baby Dies It can be difficult to know what to say when a baby dies. As we wrap up another October, which is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, I think it’s important to share this post again. It’s been a long time since I wrote it, and it deserved […]
Awkward…
I have always been a bit socially awkward. Not weird, just unpolished. I often stick my foot in my mouth or I blurt out things without thinking. Basically I have no filter. Oh and I have a very strange laugh when I’m nervous. Since losing an infant, this problem has grown worse. Now I make […]
Are You Afraid To Forget Them? Guest Post
Today I am very excited to feature a Guest Post from Tova Gold. I came across Tova on Facebook through several different TTTS groups I am a part of, and was immediately drawn in by her absolute positive outlook on life and her desire to be happy and full of life, despite losing both of […]
52 Hours
Two days ago (December 10th) was my twins’ first Birthday. Only one of them was here for us to celebrate with. Today is the one year anniversary of sweet Kathryn’s death. We had her in our world for 52 hours. I am struggling greatly to find the balance between gratefulness, happiness, and grief so strong […]
Shutting Down – my 100th post
This is my 100th post. Yay! Pop the champagne! Very appropriately it is true to the overall nature of my blog. Surviving after the loss of a child. I wrote this a few days ago but I am glad I did not post it then. I was having a REALLY BAD DAY! Thankfully, the […]
Words To Say When A Baby Dies
If you’re here, you’re probably struggling for the right words to say when a baby dies… My first exposure to “baby loss” occurred in April 2005. Friends of mine, Anja and Corey, were expecting their first baby. She was a week overdue, and noticed she felt no movement. They went into the hospital on a Friday […]
Day 17
On Thanksgiving Day last year, November 24, 2011, I had been lying in a hospital bed for 17 days, hoping and praying that my babies would be able to continue to grow stronger. It was lonely. I slept most of the day, in and out of a groggy state, wondering how much longer I would […]
Book Review – Growing Up in Heaven
Growing Up in Heaven: The Eternal Connection Between Parent and Child by James Van Praagh My rating: 2 of 5 stars I decided to buy and read this book because it had been recommended by numerous people as a great book for a grieving parent. It was not a great book for this grieving parent. […]
No Antidote
November 8th. One year ago today I was anxiously awaiting my weekly appointment to see Dr. Browne. I was just over 26 weeks pregnant with the girls, and the week before had not been a good appointment. I reflected on what the doctor had told us at the last appointment. Kathryn was getting worse each […]
Balloons to Heaven
Yesterday the family participated in a lovely walk of remembrance and ceremony for all babies gone too soon. I had been looking forward to this event for months. The children were excited about going to the park, and really got excited when they found out they were going to get to send some balloons to […]
Black Friday
Tweet#grief, #babyloss, #TTTS September 28,2012I wrote this post a few days ago, in anticipation of this day. I have had a rough week, knowing that these awful one year markers were about to begin. I thought about not posting this, because it is dark and angry, although it ends on a lighter note. I wondered […]
For Love of Kathryn
Tweet#babyloss I just made my first donation of Teeny Tiny Diapers to Teeny Tears. What an amazing project this is! Teeny Tears is a service organization that makes tiny diapers for preemies that are stillborn or die shortly after birth, because most of them are too small for even the smallest diapers. Find out more […]
The Dreaded “Year of Firsts”
We all have ways of measuring things, passing time, marking key events. When you go through something as horrific as TTTS and infant loss, or the loss of anyone you love, there are so many dates, events, memories. When it was diagnosed, when we had procedures, when the babies were born. When Kathryn died. I dreaded […]
Kathryn
Tweet I have added a new page to the blog – “Kathryn’s Story.” It’s really Kathryn and Tiny’s story, but it is all about the progression of our pregnancy, the TTTS, and the process that we went through. That little baby was a fighter!!!
